HELP! Sisters boyfriend wants to kick her out of her own house. What to do

[mrichman333]

I posted this in the general forum because this isn’t about a Tenant / Landlord but a boyfriend living in his girlfriend house who threatens to kick HER out. But this may be a better place to get help, so here it goes.

My sister owns her own home free and clear after 32 years. Several years ago her boyfriend moved in. He turned out to be a bum; he didn’t help her at all the first year he was there and he didn’t work. He finally got a job and started paying ½ the utilities and ½ the property taxes and some of the food. Well he’s not working again and he just lazes around the house doing nothing, this has caused a lot of fights and my sister is fed up. This past October they had a big plow up and my sister called the police to get him out of the house. After the boyfriend talked to the police, the police told my sister there was nothing they could do and maybe SHE should spend the night some place else. They are still fighting and my sister wants him out. I was there yesterday and he is a bully! He scares me. He starts slamming things and shouting.

So here are my questions.
1. Were the police right? This is Brick Twp.
2. Should she file formal eviction? OR can she just have him removed?
3. Should I make a report about what I have witnessed with the police.

My sister has high blood pressure and recently had a mini stroke because of it. I don’t think she can make it till he finds a place to live.

I don’t know what to do

Mary

[Eagle]

Okay, if the boyfriend has no lease, pays no rent and is not a part owner of the house, then your sister can kick him out. Better yet, she should change the locks when he is not home and not let him in the home. If he tries to get in then she should call the cops and tell them that a trespasser is trying to break in.

In all liklihood, the boyfriend told the cops something false like he is an owner of the house or he rents part of it. The cops had no reason to disbelieve him.

[mrichman333]

Thank you, I am going to share this with my sister.

[mrichman333]

Egale, I copied and printed out your reply and showed it to my sister. I then made the mistake of showing it to the boyfriend. Boy did he get mad; he followed me out the back door where there was a scuffle and I stumbled down the back steeps and scraped up my arm; I called 911, the police came and talked to me my sister and him. Long story short my sister and I finally followed the police to the station, I filed a report and my sister got a TRO. They go to court Wednesday.

I spent the night at my sisters; the next morning as I was driving down my sister’s street he was coming the other way. I did a dumb thing, I turned around and followed him tooting my horn to get him to pull over, he did I asked him why he was on my sister street. Long story short I went to the police and told them what happened.

I haven’t followed up yet with a complaint for the scuffle. My husband doesn’t want me to because he’s afraid if I do he will come after me. He also doesn’t want me to go to court with her. I was thinking of going to court and not letting my husband know, but I don’t know if it's possible to file a complaint and not let him know. I don't even know what a complaint would entail, would we have to go to court?

I have NO idea how any of this works. Before any of this the only time I ever had to call the police was to report a accident I saw.

Any suggestions or recommendations would really help me.

Thanks

Mary

[mrichman333]

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