Marital Home Question

[Clara]

My husband and I are in the process of negotiating a divorce settlement. I will retain the home with our children until the youngest graduates high school. My husband wants to place a clause in the settlement which states that I am prohibited from having male overnight guests in the house. I have no problem with this restriction while my kids are here, but, what if the kids are sleeping at his home for the night? Am I entitled to have overnight guests when I am the only one sleeping in the house? We haven't signed anything yet, but I was interested in knowing if he can dictate the use of the home while the children are away.

[drcoastline]

That clause will never stand up in court. He has no right to tell you who can come to your house or who can stay so long as the children are not in danger any more then you have the right to tell him.

Save yourself a lot of legal fees and put the clause in to make him happy, include the same clause for when the kids are at his home.

What if you find another husband he is not allowed in your home when your kids are there? What if he finds a new wife she is not allowed in his home when the kids are at his home?

As F***ed up as this state is and as many bad judges there and there are a lot no judge will rule on that clause it is ridiculous.

[Clara]

Thanks for the feedback. Actually, the mediator made it clear that the clause was a demand of my ex, but ultimately I refused to include it at the mediation. I, too, believed that it would never be upheld by a judge. My ex agreed to exclude it when the mediator said the same.

[drcoastline]

Very good I'm happy to hear it worked out.