planning divource

[niz]

I married my wife 1999
she has 1 child, now 16, living with us. I have 2 kids 20 and 22 who lives in canada.
My wife leaves the home for long periods without telling us.
I found out she has a gambling addition.
I am thinking there is more to this.
I really want out of this marriage.
We have no kids together.
we own a house.
How do I do it?

[stan03]

Do you have significant assets other than the house?

[niz]

no just the house

[stan03]

Would she agree to a divorce and be cooperative? If so, it would be an easy thig to do especially if you could agree on how to split the property.

[stan03]

Found this on the web:

Generally, you must be a resident of New Jersey for one year to file for a divorce.

Either spouse can get a divorce simply by stating in divorce papers that the two parties are separated and have lived in separate residences for at least 18 consecutive months. After the 18-month period, the court will presume that there is no reasonable prospect of reconciliation.

If the spouses have been separated for less than 18 months and are not in agreement that a divorce should occur, the spouse wanting the divorce must prove one of the following grounds:

Adultery
Willful and continued desertion for one year
Extreme cruelty – defined as physical or mental cruelty that endangers the safety or health of the other spouse
Drug addiction or habitual drunkenness
Continuous institutionalization for mental illness for two or more years
Imprisonment for 18 months
Deviant sexual behavior

The legal divorce process begins when one of the spouses files a "Complaint" with the Superior Court. The other spouse is then served with the paperwork and given time to respond. If the parties are in agreement about property and debt division, as well as child custody and child support matters, the divorce can be finalized without a trial. If the parties can't come to an agreement, the court will set a time for a hearing.

[jff.law]

I think you should contact a lawyer, he will give you the right answer for all things